Dear Sarah

We call you dear because that is what you are to us, and we are hoping to help you to remember, even though you are in pain, some of the things we feel about you and wish to communicate with you. We love you very much, and the information we give you is so much easier to accept when you open your heart so much as a crack, which you are choosing to do presently. You are doing this better than you think you are, and there is never any reason to be afraid or tense about talking with us. The communication barrier is never on our end. You don't have to be afraid of that.

Because we think it might be helpful to you and to others, we would like to complete the message we sent you regarding masculine, feminine, and soul based relationships between the two.

Femininity

The feminine heart is characterized by openness. All of God's children must cultivate this characteristic, of course, but the form it takes in the feminine is unique, and bears a flavour that is hard to describe verbally but is readily apparent on an energetic level.

A women living in her soul is:

●      Creative: the arts, music, and other external forms of expression have been blocked for women by traditional gender biases. However, there have been and will be in the future collectives of women who live to create – to finish and refine the most beautiful parts of the human experience into something visible and tangible.

●      Accepting: Women are, in their soul, accepting: not in the sense of passivity or a “whatever will be, will be” attitude, but in the sense of allowing people, emotions, children, and circumstances to be what and who the are without judgement.

●      Strong: Women are independent in terms of not needing the validation of their culture or external relationships to allow them to experience love. The experience of loving and being loved is what makes us truly strong, since it fosters in us the ability to promote growth without fear. Women, in their soul, are fearless.

●      Nurturing: in a condition of pure love, women desire to pass on their strength and abilities on to those around them, allowing the invisible umbilical cord of their energy to ground and nourish others. This transaction cannot be falsified or faked – nurturing is not a set of behaviours but a movement of energy towards someone. The energy is transferred from person to person, but not in the way you might picture: the nurturer is not left drained, because her supply is infinite and nothing can leave her. Rather, true caretaking gives its recipient an example, a hope to look forward to that one day they will be able to give to others as well, and it is this encouragement that strengthens others.

Relationships

The way men and women interact with one another has been distorted in many ways, largely because most individuals on earth have had parents which, at best, could only partially model a small sampling of the true nature of gender. Furthermore, for those of you on earth whose soul-mates are of the same gender as yourselves, very few of us were raised by homosexual parents or were given the chance to observe healthy gay partnerships. In all of this, the best thing we can do is return to the models of gender that we first experienced in our families, and determine the sort of things we learned about our own gender identity and the interplay between the sexes.

By learning these things about yourself, it is possible to determine the scripts we have in place for dealing with gender roles. For the benefit of others who may read this, we will explain: We often cast ourselves as characters who are meant to play a certain part in our personal dramas, and assume that our reactions and outcomes will follow a specific set of expectations we have about the world. For example, if my partner drinks, I may cast myself as a victim, and feel that I must beg him to stop until he does. In reality, we can choose an infinite number of behaviours and responses, but the one that we do choose is often a product of what we've watched other people do in the past, and how we feel these situations “ought” to play out.

There is not much better advice than for each one of you to go deeply into your own personal patterns and expectations. Whenever you react in you own relationships, ask yourself why you have chosen this specific way, and what event in your childhood or past you may have learned this from.

But more than any relational work, use the forms of the truly soul-based masculine and feminine to see what it is you're looking for. We will be dissatisfied in any relationship until we recover our own souls. The only way this is possible is to make your emotions, passions, and experiences a top priority, and to work emotionally through the issues that still cause us to reject our masculine or feminine nature. For many of you, this is the most challenging and fundamental work of all, and errors in this place create difficulties that arch into the rest of your life.

One of the things, my friend, that we've wanted to say to you personally, is that recently you have been experiencing emotions that are very defensive. It's hard to let yourself grow and shine when you don't feel safe in the world, isn't it? There is a layer of fear between you and your passions. Think of it as a blanket, and right now you're playing peek-a-boo – looking at the joy on the other side, then drawing the curtain again. We would like to lovingly remind you that you are the one in charge of your passions and your fear, and you can do what you like with them. You are not dependent and you are not a victim. Your true soul, though covered in all sorts of elaborate injuries, is not the Ark of the Covenant – you can touch it and we promise you won't die.

We love you, and hope that soon you'll be able to really see what we mean. There are so many things that even now you are good at, and don't seem to realize that you could be the “the best” at if you let yourself go – writing, mediumship, speaking to groups, etc. Why worry that you don't have enough when you have so much information to the contrary? We are doing the best we can to help you see who you are and how your relationships can change. Thank you for accepting our help and allowing this to flow through you. We'll contact you again at a later time, and you can always feel free to contact us.

With love,

Your spirit friends